Ways to Build Up Your Confidence

Ways to Build Up Your Confidence

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“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” – Helen Keller


You could be the most charming, most intelligent, most senior, most skilled, most high-achieving person in the world. But, if your confidence gets knocked, which happens to us all, all of those facts about how brilliant you are can melt away. Your self-worth and resilience can crumble fast! I can’t tell you how useless I have felt in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary at times.

Confidence is key. It’s key to resilience, to momentum, to productivity, and to feeling good about everything that you are. But it doesn’t always come with ease. Sometimes it has to be worked for. Sometimes confidence has to be tricked into existence.

If you are feeling lower than usual, or have run out of confidence-boosting ideas, try one of these…

1. Music

Among other things, I have been an actor for many years. There are many difficulties with this job, and one of those is how to tackle auditions. Imagine that you have job interviews every single month, sometimes week, of your life. Now imagine that that interview will last 5 minutes, and you have to ensure that those 5 minutes are jam-packed with high-quality interaction. Situations like these require you to get in the zone as quickly as possible, and this is where your favourite bit of music comes in very useful.

Music is magic. It has a way of igniting the soul and making you feel like you can do anything. I take music with me wherever I go, as I never know when I will need to be reminded of the sensation of confidence and worth through music.

2. Fake It ‘Til You Feel It

Sometimes, if I am not feeling especially confident or resilient, I just pretend to be confident. More often than not, if I enter a situation with faux confidence, actual confidence takes over without me noticing it. This might sound a little odd, but it really works!

3. Work It Out

Even if I have to force myself out of the house, I know that a workout will make me feel infinitely better about pretty much everything. As you may well know, exercise is one of the best ways to release those endorphins, those ‘feel good’ stress-releasing chemicals. On top of that, I know it also makes me feel productive and like I am looking after myself; a physical reminder that I am striving for growth. It always makes me feel on top of things for the day.

4. Sleep

Don’t watch that extra episode. Put that phone down. Go to bed early, like you told yourself you would when you woke up knackered this morning. It’s an easy trap to fall into, and I know that I fall into it often. Getting a good night’s sleep might mean that tomorrow seems to come around faster, but tomorrow will feel a lot less daunting after a really good night’s rest and recuperation.

5. Self-Care

You might think this trick superficial, even vain, but I really believe that if you think you look good, you will feel good. Just last week I was meeting with someone. The day before I was feeling a little sluggish; I hadn’t had a thorough shave in a few days, my hair was looking out of control, and, as I had been working from home, I’d worn nothing but shorts and t-shirts for weeks. So, I got up the next day, went to the gym, got my haircut, had a beard trim and a long hot shower and put on some new clothes, and felt amazing.

The difference looking after your appearance can make to your inner being is not to be underestimated!

6. Go Outside

Sometimes getting out and about, being in the world, buying a coffee, talking to the person at the till, and standing at exactly the right point on the platform for the train door to stop in front of you, reminds you that you are part of the world. A cog. A person who knows things and can interact with strangers with charm and confidence. All these little bits of knowledge about your world, and the small interaction you have can make you forget you were having a down day remarkably quickly.

By Chris Thomson


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